How We Love: Book Review
As business owners and managers, we work hard all day and strive to do our best. But at some point, we go home to our families. This book is focused on our relationship with our spouse, although these ‘styles’ play out in our other family relationships, too.
While looking back at the original family imprints that shape who we are and how we communicate with our family now, this couple carefully and repeatedly says that our parents and caretakers did their best. In some cases, these important people didn’t have good examples themselves, so they could not teach us what they did not know. We can now do better. There’s an online assessment that we both took; very interesting. The primary love styles are the Avoider, the Pleaser, the Vacillator, and the Chaotic (Controller and Victim). There are great stories from their years of working with married couples that bring together the ideas and ‘labels.’ It’s pretty eye-opening when you realize ‘that’s me’ or ‘that’s us.’ There are concrete suggestions to improve how you love.
What does this have to do with work? Well, a balanced, thoughtful, centered, and confident leader will be successful at work, and at home. Definitely recommended. – CMW